Mum finds out she’s pregnant despite being a virgin

A mum who had never had sex got the (happy) surprise of her life when she found out she was pregnant. 

Nicole Moore was 20 years old when she fell pregnant with her daughter, despite never having penetrative sex. 

Years later, Nicole was diagnosed with vaginismus. 

What is vaginismus?

According to Health Direct, “Vaginismus causes the muscles around the vagina to tighten involuntarily. This can cause some pain and discomfort.

“Vaginismus can occur whether you have had sex or not. Vaginismus usually occurs when the genital area is touched. This can be before sexual intercourse, before attempting to insert a tampon, or during a gynaecological examination, for example.”

“I knew something was not quite right”

Despite being told everything was fine, Nicole had a feeling that wasn’t the case. 

“I’d spent all my teenage life not being able to insert a tampon, so I knew something was not quite right,” Nicole told News.com.au.

“But doctors told me I was fine, so I just believed for a while that there was something wrong with me.”

“I was still a virgin”

She began dating the father of her child at 18. Although the couple tried having sex, Nicole said it was like “hitting a brick wall”.

“We began trying to have sexual intercourse, he was a few years older and more experienced,” she said.

“We tried but it was impossible. I didn’t understand why it couldn’t happen.”

The couple found other ways to be intimate that ultimately led to Nicole falling pregnant. 

Nicole says she was at work one day when she started to experience heartburn and sore breasts. A colleague joked that she might be pregnant. 

“I laughed and said there was no way, as I was still a virgin and never had penetrative sex,” said Nicole. 

“But she said it was possible if there had been any fluids near my vagina, despite not actually having intercourse.

“I did a pregnancy test on my lunch break that day at work and it was positive.

“All I kept thinking was how on earth am I going to deliver this baby if I couldn’t even have intercourse.”

“Tilly is definitely my little miracle”

Thankfully, Nicole gave birth to her daughter Tilly, who is now eight, without any issues and says she has learnt to deal with her vaginismus. 

“I still suffer with vaginismus but I now know how to deal with it and it definitely isn’t as bad,” Nicole said.

“I still can’t do certain things, like insert a tampon, but I feel very fortunate that I am now able to have a normal sex life.

“Tilly is definitely my little miracle. We’ve got the best life together and having her was the best thing I’ve ever done.”